You’re out of the house. You’re sitting in the sun. Your kid(s) are playing in your backyard. Ah, relaxation.
But the stillness. The stillness. Your brain is suddenly listing off all the things that you should be doing or need to do. “Enjoy the sun.” You tell yourself. “Just relax.” You try to convince yourself. But your guilt, the self-judgement, the self-expectation and obligations you have placed upon yourself, has you up out of your chair and heading back into the house to work on your to-do list.
Notice the paragraph above. “Your”, “Self”, “You”- no one else’s expectations or judgments can get you out of that chair, except you. No one has that power, unless you give it to them. Most of the time, no one is putting those expectations on you, it is an unspoken assumption that we put on ourselves.
We grew up with “happily ever after”, magazines of perfection and judgement; resulting in a social expectation of perfection. Your house needs to be perfect, you need to be perfect, and you should always be doing something- or you’re failing or lazy.
That is an unnecessary belief to be carrying around. What is ‘perfect’? According to the dictionary, perfect is having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. Absolute; complete. However, wouldn’t this be different for everyone? Yes! None of us are the same. We are all unique. Our appearance, our lives, our circumstances, our children, our desires, our….I can go on and on. My point, there is no comparison. Let go of being perfect in any aspect of your life because the meaning of your ‘perfect’ will be different from my ‘perfect’ and anyone else’s ‘perfect’.
Enjoy your quiet moments. Your to-do list can wait- it’s not going anywhere.
“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault
Do your best. Do what you can. Take time for you. Rest. Be Present.
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